To Negotiate Successfully Become Proficient At Conflict Resolution

When it comes to conflict resolution, some negotiators enter into such activities with neither thought nor plan for the manner by which they’ll engage the other negotiator. In so doing, they place themselves in a less favorable position than if they’d thought through the process.

Whether you’re in a business or personal environment, you’re always negotiating. As such, there will be times when you’ll have to engage in conflict resolution. In so doing, consider the following:

1) Before you become upset by your perception of a situation that you view as requiring conflict resolution, check your perspective and seek to understand the other person’s point of view. Be sure you understand the cause of that person’s discomfort from an intellectual standpoint and if possible, assimilate that person’s emotional state of mind into your own mindset.

2) Observe the body language of the person with whom you think you may have a disagreement. Determine if what you see matches what you hear.

a.)Watch the eyes. The eyes may hold in-sight to the resolution.

The eyes can give insight into the real thoughts that are occurring in someone’s mind. Typically, if you ask someone a question and they look up and to the left, they’re attempting to recall a past experience. If they look up and to the right, they’re being creative with their response (making something up). Therefore, if someone looks up and to the right, when thinking about a past experience, you should become attuned to the fact that their discomfort may not relate to the situation at hand. It may be complicated by additional circumstances that are not applicable in the current situation.

b.)In a conflict resolution, the feet can keep you from defeat.

When addressing someone in person, observe the positioning of his or her feet. While they’re totally engaged with you, they’ll tend to have their feet pointed towards you. When they are in the process of disengaging, they’ll point one foot, or both feet, away from you.

c.) Speech patterns, in person, over the phone, and via e-mail give a glimpse into the mind.

When attempting to resolve conflicts, note the pace at which a person speaks. In particular, take note in the change of their pace and at what point the change occurs. In so doing, if you’re astute, you can discern the sources of motivation that stimulates someone to take a particular action. Alter the pace and you alter their perspective.

3) Make sure you listen to the fact that sometimes, people just want to know that they’re being heard. If you encounter such a situation, to the degree you can, let the other person speak. Be a patient listener and don’t interrupt them.

4) Listen for the emotional level of the conflict for the degree of stress that’s involved. Assess whether someone is using misplaced aggression from another situation and projecting it into the situation with you. In essence, assess what the real source of a conflict is before addressing it.

Conflict resolution can be difficult, in any aspect of your life. The better skilled you are and prepared to address conflicts, the more capable you’ll become at finding the appropriate solution in the appropriate situation… and everything will be right with the world. Remember, you’re always negotiating.

Negotiation Quote:

“Never fear to engage in conflict resolution and when possible, never engage in conflict resolution out of fear.” – Greg Williams, The Master Negotiator

The Negotiation Tips Are…

· In every aspect of your life, you negotiate. So, the better you become at conflict resolution, the better you’ll become at negotiating.

· When negotiating, you give others insight into your demeanor. Therefore, always be aware of the demeanor you display.

· Conflict resolution can be unpleasant. It’s something that you may not like to do, but it can relieve tension and pressure from an otherwise irritating situation.

Christmas Presents for Girlfriend: How to Stay Out of the Doghouse

Wondering what kind of present to get your girlfriend for Christmas? Women are easy to please as long as you get them a present that shows you love them and pay attention to their tastes and preferences. There are many things to consider when trying to decide what the ideal present for your girlfriend is. This article will help you determine which gift would be ideal to present to your girlfriend on Christmas morning.

First of all, you will want to base your decision for the present on how long you have been going out and how serious the relationship is. You won’t give the same type of present if you are a new couple as you would if you have been going out for a year or more. If you give her a gift that`s too serious like a ring, you may scare her away. However if you have been going out for a while, a gift that says you are not scared of commitment may be expected and appreciated.

Thoughtful Christmas presents for girlfriends are the ones that show you pay attention to her tastes and preferences is best. Is she into knitting, cooking, tattoos, books, music, techie gadgets or embroidery? Buying her a present that she wouldn’t necessarily buy herself because it`s a luxury item will really treat her and score points for you. Any of the following gifts will buy you a ticket out of the dog house and secure a place into her heart. Hope these ideas inspire you to find the perfect present for your honey-pie.

Top 5 Gifts for New Relationship Girlfriend

1-Music CD or iTunes card

2-Necklace or bracelet (if you plan on being with this girl for a while)

3-Flowers ( not red roses unless you love the lady)

4-Pamper Me Gift Basket

5-Tickets For 2 for concert, play or other event

Top 5 Gifts for Long Time Girlfriend

1- Ring

2-Spa treatment gift certificate

3- Romantic getaway

4- Houseplant Garden Basket

5- Perfume

6- Clothing

Another gift that would be perfect for most all girlfriends is a Christmas floral arrangement. There are many options to gift your loved one with flowers during the holidays even if you have no idea what tastes she has. From roses in a fancy vase, a mixed Christmas bouquet to a centerpiece composed of fir, pine and cedar boughs around a candle, perhaps a keepsake Christmas statue along with fresh red and white flowers, pinecones and red berries will please the great majority of all women at Christmas time.

How Leaders Should Negotiate?

Nearly everything, we do, involves a certain degree of negotiating. We negotiate, at home, at work, and during all our activities. However, perhaps, never is negotiating skill, experience, expertise, and ability, more necessary and needed, than, in being a quality leader. With that in mind, this article will attempt to briefly examine, consider, discuss, and explain, how and why, it’s so important, for a true leader, to negotiate, and why, it is a leader, who determines, whether negotiations are successful, or less satisfying.

1. Learn the skills and necessities: The first thing, one must understand and clearly, know, is successful negotiations, are not about, merely, winning, but, rather, the best results arise from a win – win, mindset, process and approach. While lying/ distorting, making over – stated claims/demands, might get immediate gratification, in the longer – term, results will suffer, unless/ until, both sides depart from the process, believing they have achieved, what they needed, to do, for the interests of their organization, etc. Begin by learning to effectively listen, and learn, what the other side, is needing, and stating, and gain knowledge, and expertise, from every conversation and experience. Do extensive homework, and seek, to create a meeting of the minds, by identifying mutual, cost – saving areas, concept, and plans, and realizing, when you create a new benefit, for the other side, there’s more, they might be able to offer you.

2. Examples: If you are negotiating, for example, with a venue for an event, which includes food, discuss ways to reduce the venue’s costs/ expenses, and ask for them to share those savings, with you. Think outside – the – box, and determine, how communicating, with integrity, from the onset, and clearly, explaining, what you need, and your limitations, and you will improve your results.

3. Don’t lie!: You need a meeting – of – the – minds, which requires mutual trust. Doing so, requires significant efforts, and time, to create, but, one lapse, will usually destroy your efforts.

4. Clarify and organize, using a Request for Proposal (RFP): Make yourself clear, from the beginning, by beginning the process, with a Request for Proposal, or, RFP, and make it, as thorough and complete, as possible! Pit one venue, against another, and select the one, which meets your needs, and budget. Know your budget, from the onset, so you might properly plan, and negotiate. The responses to the RFP, should be included, as part of the final contract.

Negotiate, like a leader, and do so, from strength, expertise, experience, and maintain absolute integrity. Are you ready to lead effectively?